Divorce and Child Custody

What do you do when your ex does not parent the way you want them to?  The initial step should be communicating with your ex, but if the divorce is still to fresh or the rift to wide, this is not the solution.  Usually, a parent files a motion for an order to show cause why the other parent should not be held in contempt for not following the parent plan (which should be part of the Decree).  This in turn requires mediation and a hearing before the court.  If the matter is minor, the penalty is usually simply a stern warning from the court to knock it off and act like a responsible parent.  The offending party, however, usually does get the message because a continuation of behavior could lead to serious consequences with the court.  Thus, even if you are not sure you that the court will find your ex in contempt, this may be the only way to let them know you are serious about their bad behavior.