Child Custody Issues

It is tough not to let your post divorce relationship with your ex-spouse be the same as your married relationship.  Forging a new relationship is difficult, but it is essential to having your child(ren) understanding the new order of things.  Child custody laws are often made as default provisions and should only be relied upon as a secondary plan when all else fails.  Only the parents have complete control to determining what this child custody relationship will be.  I have often been amazed to find out that the parents of one of my kid's friends are divorced.  This is because there is no tension between them and they are both working together for the benefit of the child(ren).  In front of me (and the child(ren)), they keep things on a positive level rather than rehash their old relationship.   Only when one parent does not play nice should a child custody attorney be brought in to let the other parent know that such behavior will not be tolerated.  Unfortunately, in these situations, the law takes over and the parent's lose some of their control over developing that new relationship.  This can lead to further frustration.