9 Post-Divorce Parenting Suggestions

NINE SUGGESTIONS TO MAKE YOU A BETTER POST-DIVORCE PARENT

1.      Be on time and use all of your time.  You should not pick up your children late or return them early.  They know and can tell when they are being shorted!

2.      Become an expert on the subject of parenting and post divorce issues a child might have.  Knowing how to deal with typical post divorce issues can help you make the most of your time and help them develop in a safe environment. 

3.      Stay or become involved in your children’s activities.  Get to know their friends and their teachers, group leaders, or other role models.  Attend school and extracurricular activities or let them know beforehand if an issue arises and you cannot attend.  Ask them how the activity went.

4.      Reach out to others and use support groups to express you concerns, frustrations, and triumphs.  Helpful suggestions often come from those with more experience. 

5.      Create a parenting-plan on how you will care for and provide guidance for your children.  You should know their schedules and routines as well as your ex-spouse’s schedule.  Consistency and minimizing surprises can be helpful to you and your children’s relationships.  Having a plan makes the time more valuable.

6.      Research and evaluate the schools near you and near your ex-spouse.  Know the school schedule as well as the transportation schedule.   

7.      Keep your home child friendly with adequate room, privacy, and safety.  Make sure you make adjustments as the children get older and have different needs.

8.      Develop common interests with your children (even if you do not really like the activity).  Become part of their lives and share them with them.   

9.      Know and understand your child’s medical needs and health records.  Go to check-ups and visits.  Pay attention to the development of your child and ask questions.