How to Divorce -- Dealing with your spouse

            Divorce can bring out the worst in people.  At times self-interest can justify behaviors that otherwise would be intolerable.  However, self-protection requires a new set of guidelines for dealing with your legal adversary:

      

1. Use politeness. 
2. Be skeptical.  Most of what is said can be meant to deceive you. 
3. Don't reveal too much. 
4. Walk away from arguments or conflict.
5. Expect your spouse to dislike your lawyer and attempt to undermine his/her influence. 
6.  Don’t enter into private negotiations without your lawyer's knowledge and advice. 
7. DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, KEEP ANY FILES IN CONNECTION WITH YOUR CASE AT ANY LOCATION WHERE YOUR SPOUSE COULD SEIZE AND OBTAIN THEM, THUS LEARNING YOUR ENTIRE CASE STRATEGY. 
8. Do not be intimidated by your spouse if an ultimatum or deadline is given you to accept or reject an offer or proposition.  One does not negotiate “under the gun” as to time.